Brianna Wiest
Wanting change can clash with wanting the safety of familiar patterns. Wiest describes self-sabotage as a coping mechanism that offers temporary relief while leaving deeper needs unmet.
Self-sabotage is often a protective response that appears when you hold coexisting but conflicting needs around change.
Humans tend to seek what feels familiar, which is why healthier or happier circumstances can feel unsettling until we adjust to them.
Positive life changes can create adjustment shock, so newfound calm may feel uncomfortable if you are used to chaos.