Robert A. Glover
Stop trying to be the perfect, accommodating guy. Men who constantly suppress their needs and hide their flaws to win approval end up resentful, manipulative, and deeply unfulfilled in life and love.
Nice Guys operate on hidden covert contracts, falsely believing that if they meet the needs of others without asking, their own needs will automatically be met in return.
What appears to be selfless generosity is actually a manipulative coping mechanism driven by a fear of rejection and a deep-seated belief of inherent defectiveness.
Recovery requires transitioning into an integrated man who embraces all aspects of his character, including his flaws, masculinity, and sexuality, rather than pretending to be perfect.