Erich Fromm
Love is not a magical feeling you passively fall into, but a demanding art form that requires discipline, concentration, and the courage to confront your own existential isolation.
Mastering the art of loving requires the same dedication, patience, and theoretical knowledge needed to learn any other complex skill or discipline.
Authentic love is the only healthy solution to the existential anxiety of human separateness, allowing two individuals to become one while perfectly preserving their independent integrity.
True love is defined by the active giving of your joy, understanding, and vitality, rather than the passive, immature desire to be loved or rescued.