Henry Cloud, John Townsend
Healthy relationships require clear property lines for your soul. By defining what you are and are not responsible for, you can stop enabling destructive behavior and finally take control of your life.
You are deeply responsible to the people you love, but you are never responsible for their feelings, attitudes, or daily loads.
Rescuing irresponsible individuals from the painful consequences of their actions only enables their destructive behavior to continue.
You must possess the complete freedom to say no before your decision to say yes can be considered a genuine act of love rather than compliance driven by fear.