Amir Levine, Rachel Heller
Your romantic struggles are not character flaws but biological responses driven by your attachment style. Understanding whether you are secure, anxious, or avoidant is the key to finding and sustaining lasting love.
True independence is fueled by the dependency paradox, where having a reliable, emotionally available partner provides a secure base that allows you to confidently explore the world.
Adult relationship behavior predictably falls into secure, anxious, or avoidant attachment styles, dictating how comfortable individuals are with intimacy and how they react to relationship threats.
Anxious individuals and avoidant individuals frequently attract one another, creating a painful trap where one partner's pursuit of closeness triggers the other's distancing behaviors.